Coming soon I will be including a few guest bloggers in the mix! ———————- If you are potentially interested in guest blogging, here’s what I’m looking for! 1. Lovely Resilience blog is looking for voices of hope. People who stand toe to toe with life and make the often hard choice to choose hope. 2. Your message is all your own, but I will make these requests. I do not use this blog site as a political platform, nor do I use it for a religious platform. I am using this website as a means of getting my foot in the door to empower others to choose hope. •What I…
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Step Outside and Breathe in Your Purpose
“What if your biggest contribution to the world is someone you’re raising?” I heard them say this and almost immediately felt reservation. This was an incredibly romantic idea: this idea makes all of the sacrifices and ‘changes of plans’ worth it. But it just didn’t sit right with me… and I have to say something. First, let me say what I like about this quote (which is slightly paraphrased to be more inclusive) is that it makes us think outside of ourselves. I’m not just a Mombie, and someday after lots of blood sweat and tears I’ll die. My effort, day in and day out, is producing three really incredible…
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Lean in and Be Motivated
Thanks to science, we know that the brain does not finish developing until around 25 years old. With this we know that most of our core beliefs are formulated before 25, with few major changes thereafter without something drastic influencing those beliefs. What we don’t talk about very often is how those core beliefs are driven by feelings that we believe at our core. Many of you are familiar with the movie Inside Out. This movie is such a powerful display of how this unfolds, passively demonstrating how Riley’s main driver was joy, but her parents’ drivers were sadness and anger. In real life it isn’t that simple, we know…
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I am the Lovely Resilience
There is something beautiful that happens when small children begin to reach milestones. Sometimes they labor for days or weeks before they first use a baby sign, or begin taking those first steps… in our wisdom we can see the ‘before’, the ‘during’ and (now) the ‘after’. It doesn’t change how hard the next inevitable milestone will be, but wisdom prepares us for what the process entails. Brene Brown talks about this process in theater terms: act I, act II and act III. To keep it brief, Act I is when the protagonist (you) finds their self on a journey of some kind. Act II is where the protagonist struggles,…
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The Bravery It Takes To Ask For Help When You Have Depression
It was somewhere between bouncing a screaming baby and medicating my bleeding, cracked nipples that I knew I didn’t see the silver lining anymore. This wasn’t sustainable, I was pale, sleep deprived, so hungry I wasn’t hungry anymore, and this wasn’t the romantic fourth trimester I envisioned. I knew it was hard, but surely what I was feeling inside was not universal. The anxiety and nausea that overcame me every time I nursed our daughter, the sleep safety rules made me feel like our little bundle of joy was more of a suicidal time-bomb, I felt absolutely paranoid. Didn’t she know that I couldn’t sleep with her on my chest?…
